Partners and spouses
Often the person most involved in day-to-day accommodating, and often carrying the most of it without much recognition.
The Guided program · Loved Ones
For the people supporting someone who’s struggling: a program of your own.
A six-module program for the partner, spouse, parent, or close relative of someone living with a sound-sensitivity condition. It helps you tell the difference between comforting them and automatically accommodating their avoidance, while taking your own worry, guilt, and exhaustion seriously as something worth its own care.
- 6 modules
- plus a Getting ready module before you start
- Weekly reply
- a coach reads every check-in and writes back
- Enrolls on its own
- you can start whether or not the person you’re supporting is a Kodama patient
What “Guided” means
Not a class, not an app left alone with you
This kind of support is strongest when a coach stays involved, so that’s how Kodama runs it: a program with someone on the other end. Every module follows the same rhythm.
- Step one
You work through a module
One module at a time, about 20–30 minutes each. Each builds on the last, but the pace is yours; a module can take a week, or longer.
- Step two
You finish with a short check-in
A few honest sentences about how it’s going, plus your accommodation log. Saved securely in Practice Better.
- Step three
Your coach writes back
They read it before your next module, keeping the program shaped to you, and to your particular relationship.
Who this is for
You don’t need them to be enrolled anywhere
Loved Ones is its own program, not a linked add-on to someone else’s care. You enroll with your own account, your own consent, and your own coach correspondence.
Parents and adult children
The program’s content applies just as directly outside a couple relationship; nothing here assumes a particular kind of family.
Any close relative
Siblings and other close family are welcome too. What matters is that you’re someone shaping your responses around their condition.
The modules
Seven steps, in the order they work
Each module builds toward the same shift: from automatically accommodating to deliberately, warmly supporting, while taking your own wellbeing seriously along the way.
Part 01
Understand what's real
Getting oriented: what the program asks of you, and what’s genuinely happening in their body.
Getting ready
What the program asks, whether now is the time, and why a program like this exists, without blame.
Understanding the condition as real
What’s actually happening in their body, what your response does, and validation versus accommodation.
Part 02
Change how you respond
Naming your own patterns, then practicing a different, more deliberate way to support.
Recognizing accommodation in your own behavior
What accommodation actually looks like, and your own log and inventory begin.
Support vs. rescue
Five practiced scripts, the coordinate-don’t-improvise rule, and a collaborative fading plan.
Part 03
Care for yourself, and make it last
Your own wellbeing as a direct treatment target, and a plan for keeping the change going.
Caring for the caregiver
Naming guilt, resentment, and exhaustion as normal, and a wellbeing check-in of your own.
Sustaining it
Protecting the relationship, a household agreement, closing measures, and what “still hard” can mean.
Before you start
Questions people ask
If yours isn’t here, the Getting ready module answers most of it, and your coach answers the rest.
Does the person I'm supporting need to be a Kodama patient?
No. Loved Ones enrolls independently, with its own account. You can start this whether or not they’re enrolled anywhere, or even open to it yet.
Will they be able to see what I write in my check-ins?
No. Your record is your own, with its own confidentiality boundary, the same as theirs, if they have one. Nothing you write is visible to them unless you choose to share it directly.
How long does the program take?
Most people take a week or so per module, at 20–30 minutes a module, lighter than Kodama’s primary patient programs, on purpose. The pace is yours, and nothing expires.
Will this ask me to withdraw support from them?
No, the opposite. The goal is never less support, only a different kind: validating what’s real without automatically accommodating the avoidance. Any change to what you accommodate is planned together, never sprung on them.
What if I need more support than this program gives?
Module 5 names that directly. Individual therapy or a caregiver support group are reasonable next steps, and the program stays open; you can return to it any time.
Loved Ones · Guided program
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